Central Coast Singles Speed Dating Application

Speed Dating Application

Thank you for your interest in our Speed Dating event. Below is our application form. Please complete it to attend this event. See our Events Page for date, location, activities, and time. Some of our speed dating events may include dance or other event on the same evening.

Please read our Terms and Conditions for this event. It is important for you to acknowledge and accept those conditions for you to attend this event. You can also read our Privacy Policy if you are concerned about what we do with your information. Payment is by cash on the night of the event. I suggest you print a copy of this completed application before submission in case we did not get your info.

How is Speed Dating done?

You will come check in for speed dating and FREE appetizers. You will be given a card to complete with each date. This card will indicate who you met with, a score for that person, and whether you wish to have contact with this person later. You will have 1 minute between each date to complete your card and move to the next station (or remain seated if you are the designated gender to stay at the tables).

You will be assigned a table, or place to congregate prior to start of the event. Daters will be signaled to start, and given 7 minutes to meet with a person. You will have opportunity to ask and answer questions with each person. Once your time is up, you will hear another signal. You MUST stop the interview, and complete your card before starting your next date. If you have not completed your card by the start of the next date, you must complete the card, taking away from time with your new date.

There may be other singles hanging out, watching things, and mingling at this event. You will be assigned an age group based on your request. If you want to participate in a younger or older group than you belong to, that is acceptable. It is up to you to decide where you are comfortable and more likely to find what you are looking for. We will assign by what age group YOU best associate with. If you are 20 and want to be with 40 year olds, we will put you there. If you are 40 and want to be put with 20 year olds, that is fine also. Just remember that your success partially depends on whether the age group you choose is receptive to you. We also realize that some people may be looking for younger activity partners for hiking, travel, and other outdoor activities.

The speed dating will go on until everyone has had a chance to rotate. Once that is done, each group will get up and mingle with each other until all groups are done. This is your chance to get back to those who interested you. You will hand in your form to let us know who you want further contact from, and we will arrange to get that information to them that night if either party has requested contact at the event. If they are receptive to your offer, we will pull you aside to chat some more, or provide contact information to both of you according to your application. Otherwise, you will be sent an email with their contact information. You will also be given contact info for singles that want you to contact them, even if you have not selected them. You may have had a chance to rethink your choices.

There may be prizes for participants that received the most votes (see events page for details). These will be tallied up that night, and they will be recognized just before the dance.

We will have a period of mingling for everyone after speed dating, and if a dance is scheduled, dancing will start when everyone is ready, or by 9 PM. We hope you have a great time and have fun!

Dos and Don'ts:

Should I go alone?
You can come alone or in a group. Your friends can hang out in the gallery for the evening, and join you during the mingle periods. Most people do not bring "competition" and come alone. If it is a matter of feeling awkward, we will do our best to make you comfortable, and walk you through the process. I will be available for questions and nervous feelings.

How should I dress?
Dress presentable, as you would like people to see you. First impressions count, so dress to impress others. Depending on the venue, shoes may be limited. The Grange does not allow high heels or spike heels on the wood floor. If this event is at the SLO Grange, please wear flats or lower heels. If you are coming straight from work, you may want to bring a change of clothes, and change in the restroom (or before you get there). Of course, wearing a uniform can be beneficial to you, as some people have an attraction to uniforms, and it proves you are employed :-). Of course, if you want to hide who you work for, we can put your nametag over the company logo. Just be clean and presentable.

What questions should I ask?
If you have a difficult time coming up with questions, we will have some suggested questions available for you to work from. Of course, you should do your own questions, as creativity is great, but don't be "off the wall". Most people also appreciate a bit of humor. You may try popping in a silly question every now and then just to keep them "on their toes". If you notice right away that the next date is really not your type, you may be tempted to politely tell that person that you need a drink or restroom break. However, we recommend that you give everybody a chance, as you should not judge a book by it's cover, and you may find something about this person that would be a good friend at least. When you ask (and answer) questions, maintain eye contact to show integrity and interest. It may be good to let the other person ask first, so you see where their interests are. Listen to what your date has to say before you start chatting upyourself. Don't make it feel like an interrogation. It should be enjoyable. Here are some sample questions:

If you could choose any job/career/vaction/place for retirement what would it be? (depending on age)
Do you have any children? Pets?
Who is your favorite actor/actress?
What is your favorite pizza/food/drink?
If you won the lottery, how would you/we spend the money? (smile for this one)
Avoid POLITICS.
Manage your compliments. Tell someone they look nice, but don't go on about how your ex had an outfit just like it.
Pay attention, in case they answer questions before you ask. Don't ask a question they already answered in comments.
Avoid very short answers like just "yes" or "no". If they do it, ask them for more info.
Do not finish your date's sentences or interrupt their answers. You don't know their answer until they give it..
Do not talk about your past relationships, or ask about theirs. Keep it about them, not the exes.

Last minute pointers:
Your goal is to get a second date! On the first date people are usually trying to see if there is anything wrong with you, and if they feel confident that you are alright, they will be willing to go out on the second date. Treat this like a "REAL" first date. Do not be super serious, you will have plenty of time for that on your second date (assuming it is a mutual match). Be creative, impressive, kind, and most of all, YOURSELF. Don't try to be someone you think they want you to be. You will have others to check out. The whole point of speed dating is to see if you click, and to know each other from the basics, and to have fun. Get caught up in the excitement of the evening. Also, just like on a real date, make sure your eyes are not wandering and/or checking other people in the room (or your date's low cut blouse and cleavage ~ "My eyes are up here!") while having a conversation with him or her.

Speed Dating Application:

Once you click to submit your application, you should receive a confirmation email, and be directed to a success page.